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1. Because almost everyone thinks almost everyone is really gay or straight. Or more probably straight or gay. There is no bisexuality.
2. Except among female celebrities, where there may be bisexuality... of a kind.
3. And although there are a lot of sex sites where bisexual people get together, there's nowhere at all dedicated to the discussion of bisexuality. If you have a blog that does just this, for God's sake get in touch and I'll buy you a drink. A big one. What we have to discuss will take a while.
4. In any case, there are hardly any British blogs that discuss sexuality at all. If they do, it's about bloggers' own personal experiences. See post below.
5. The blogs that do talk about sex are from the US. Come on now, fellow Brits. Let's get talking.
6. And whenever bisexuality is mentioned in public, people still curl their lips, as if to say "oh yeah?"
7. So hardly anyone comes out.
8. Making everyone else think that bisexuality doesn't exist; and bi individuals that they are the only one ever.
9. Especially if they are men.
10. In any case, I need to write this blog. I do. Because it bugs the hell out of me that still, in the 21st century, what seems self-evident to me - that many people, men as well as women, desire, or love, or have sex with, men and women - seems so hard to grasp for so many people. I know I'm not the only one who thinks they need to wise up.
66 comments:
Thank you Clare!
I came out to my son when he was six. I was very glad I did too. This is something I'll certainly blog about at some point.
I totally agree!
OK just stumbled across this. Hell yeah can we have more please. I feel utterly invisible and only really open and true to myself with my boyfriend. Not good enough.
Bullshit im bisexual and it has nothing to do with the sexual aspect its about loving the person not the gender and not caring male or female just the inner being
Just found you! What a treat. Like the others, it can get very lonely inside being bisexual. I too feel invisible, both the straight and gay populations. Neither of them (well mostly)understand that this is what it is and I am who I am and I love who I love. Right now, I am in a relationship with a man, who while being very traditional on the outside, has very blurred lines when it comes to his own sexuality. I am completely open to him...and am still shocked by his sometimes "forgetfulness" when he gets a rise about my speaking to another man about anything in general...I have to gently remind him that if he is gonna be bothered by that - then he will have to exclude me from the entire human race! It puts things in perspective again. Great to find this site!!
I am glad I found this blog. I have had bisexual feelings sometimes, but I never took them seriously untill recent time. And now I don't even know how to identify myself. Anyway, is identifying so important? :) The thing I don't like about other places with bisexual information on the net, is they all are about sex. And what is important for me is that tenderness towards the other girl (I am a girl)I feel inside... So I'm just want to find out more about bisexuality and I hope this blog will be helpful.
Hear hear.
I'm a British woman coming out as bisexual and I've published my own blog on the subject. I live on the Continent and as yet have not found any woman to be with despite the fact that I am attractive and am searching on several online sites. Please visit Bi-Babe's blog
http://bi-babe.blogspot.com
Seems that the population self-identified as bisexual becomes more and more. According to my experience on the site *BiLoves dotcom* (a site for coming out, explore sexuality, etc.), there are about 100 members per day and they are very active. You can imagine. And if you often are online, you may find what you are looking more easily.
Hello my name is Merle Dean Shamblin and I would like to be your new friend. I sure could use somebody to chat with. I am a 47 year old long haul truck driver who currently lives in Duncan Oklahoma. Dec 8th 1960 I was born in Fairview Oklahoma. Moved to Caddo and Washita counties where I attended school at Colony Hydro and Weatherford. My parents Malvin and Wanda Shamblin were cotton and peanut farmers. Dad died in 99 from lung cancer. Graduated from SWOSU with a business degree. My two sisters are LaDonna Hubert and Malva Burrahm. Dennis is my brother. I have been a truck driver for 14 years and have driven 2 million paid miles. I have received many safe driving awards over the years. I am single and have never been married. I have a wide range of interests and am pretty much an open book. Currently I drive a 2006 Freightliner for a major carrier. I dont go to Canada very often. I dont have a dedicated route so I run the entire lower 48. I enjoy reading cinema music sports travel etc. I am gay and versatile.
thank god i found this. im a bisexual teen male that thought i was darn near alone. my parents dont know yet but my friends do. i went back 'in the closet' for a while after i tried to tell my brother, i found out the hard way that he's a homophobe, i think he's cool with me now. thanks for making a blog i felt like i could relate to!
Hi,
My name is Matt and I to am glad I found this blog. I see things a little different. Maybe some of you can help. I agree with all 10 reasons. I am 37 and I believe I have been bisexual since I can remember. I do have some confusion. When it comes to a woman, I want nothing more than to have passion with every kiss, every touch. Caressing and snuggling, spooning. Exploring every inch of each other’s mind and body. A woman’s mind and body has always been a misty to me. I always want to know what they are thinking but never do, and will go out of my way to TRY and figure it out.
With a man it is so much different. Being bisexual is much more difficult, yet very simple. It’s about arousal. Yes, both forms of the human body are exciting, but in a different way. My feeling toward a man is purely sexual. Its about making each other feel sexually gratified. No snuggling no kissing no intimate stories, or sharing dreams.(just my opinion that woud be gay not bisexual)None of us want to come "out of the closet" so to speak. I swee two ladies in public making out or being more then "friends" very often and no one seems to care.
Most of my fantasies revolve around brining the two sexes together and experiencing bi "sexual" desires. I know there are so many of us, but we are to macho to express it... myself included. We are another culture. I do see allot more of it in the younger people of today. Witch I believe will change the way people think in the future. That doesn't help those of us that are just trying to be our self in another generation. I would like to hear what you have to say. Thanks
Matt
I think it's great that ur writing such a blog. Especially number 9 where you mention "especially for men". Right now I'm a bisexual in a christian college. I found blogging under an alias was a great way to get my stories and frustrations out there in the world.
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I am a bisexual women myself and i think that being bisexual has a little bit to do with the sexual attraction but more to do with the connection you have with someone. I have been told many times over and over that being bisexual is just a phase, or being confused and that bisexual men and women can not be monogumus. And that hurts. I feel that bisexual people can be monogumus and settle down with someone. I feel also that bisexual people are more open, more comfortable with sexuality and are less confused or not confused at all about there sexual orientation compared to homosexual or heterosexual people. I dont like the assumptions people make about bisexuality and i think that if there were more blogs and more sites and imformation on bisexuality that more people would understand it and be more open to except or even try it. I have been bisexual since i was about 7 years old i starting expeirementing with same sex people. But i truly new i was bisexual by the time i was in 8th grade. I think that so many people are so uneducated about bisexuality and even other sexualitys but i think that more blogs do need to be about bisexuality and more people would understand. I am bisexual and proud. And everyone i talk to knows and excepts that i am bisexual.
I have just recently come to the conclusion to accept that yes, I am bisexual. However, I am young and do not think I will be coming out to my family anytime soon. I did tell my one friend and she told me that she was glad I told her because she thinks she is bi as well. How do I deal with this? =/
Hey, Yeah I totally agree, it's about time people just view bisexuality just as much the norm as homosexuality is becoming.
I'm lucky, I'm at Cambridge, there are quite a few bi people here, but most of them are either closeted or don't consider themselves bi.
hi merle, me too. i'd like to talk. i hope its ok to post my email here.(ankorplus@live.com)
i like this blog.
Hi all. I’m from Cuenca, Ecuador; a beautiful yet very conservative city. I’m a 22 year old bisexual male and let me tell u how hard it is to be in my condition in a place where it’s not only “socially unaccepted” but also considered “sin” due to the high religious belief. Coming out here is not an option, but luckily I have great friends who I can trust and who support me. I was so nervous when I told them… but they took it really well and now we even check out guys together, lol.
But you see, whenever I have a chance at a relationship, I feel like I can be faithful but I can’t commit to anyone. I can only be with a woman or a man for so long… then I get tired and want some of whichever sex I’m not with. This eventually leads to me being lonely and even more confused. I’m not sure if this is a commitment issue or due to me being bi… or then again it might be that I’ve never met anyone worth committing to…
The thing is that I usually fall for straight guys and girl… and only straight guys and girls. With girls it’s not a problem… but with guys it gets complicated… although I have had one or two curious guys experiment with me… I don’t mind lol.
I’m sorry if this post sounded confusing… but I feel a whole lot better just knowing maybe someone might read it.
It's nice and refreshing to read the various posts on here and I can understand all views. One person said that it has nothing to do with sex but with love. In my case, I would have to disagree. I'm a guy and have been what I can only describe as a closeted bisexual since my teens (I'm now in my late 40s). Very few people know about it, but for me it's completely sexual. I love having sex with men and women but I am only physically and romantically attracted to women. I just love being totally sexually submissive to a sexually aggressive man. Have no idea why, but that has been very confusing for me my entire life and I would like to know if there are others out there like me. Hopefully this blog will be helpful.
Hi.
I am really interested in this topic.
I am straight woman . my boyfriend declared bi curious and more recently he openly accepted to be bisexual. Ironically that happened the same day that he proposed me.
I have been an open minded person, and I can understand the differences. I do really love him and I also believe in his love for me but now, when the relation is projecting more seriously to the future I can’t stop to think, that someday I m not going to be enough for him (i mean as a woman) It is terrible to have those thoughts, specially cos they can be just product of personal insecurities!!!!. It’s hard to discuss this theme with friends or family, and I die to talk with someone serious with some knowledge or someone that has lived similar experience,(hopefully since my boyfriend optic). I can understand the hard part for the person who is bisexual but what about their partners? a big issue there as well. For a serious talk please contact me at freakfrogg07@hotmail.com
Cool to know you. well, it's great you can understand your bf. And i already has the experience with my honey know from BiFlirts.com . It's ok. I love to enjoy who I am.
Hey!It was just thi morning i've decided to create a blog about it in Romania, the country i'm from, and than i checked it out to see if there are some allready. Well what do you see?There are SO LITTLE things about bi other than porn...
I;m living in a country where freedom of expresion and tolerance are still big issues and than it;s not going to be easy. So if i take a peak once in a while and get some inspiration, don't you mind, allright?
It's not for me to say it but than again why not...keep up the good work, it will eventually mean more than you think. From a 23 years old bisexual guy, all the best to you!
Hello my name is Merle Dean Shamblin and I would like to be your new friend. I sure could use somebody to chat with. I am a 48 year old long haul truck driver who currently lives in Weatherford Oklahoma. Dec 8th 1960 I was born in Fairview Oklahoma. Moved to Caddo and Washita counties where I attended school at Colony Hydro and Weatherford. My parents Malvin and Wanda Shamblin were cotton and peanut farmers. Dad died in 99 from lung cancer. Graduated from SWOSU with a business degree. My two sisters are LaDonna Hubert and Malva Burrahm. Dennis is my brother. I have been a truck driver for 15 years and have driven 2 million paid miles. I have received many safe driving awards over the years. I am single and have never been married. I have a wide range of interests and am pretty much an open book. Currently I drive a 2006 Freightliner for a major carrier. I dont go to Canada very often. I dont have a dedicated route so I run the entire lower 48. I enjoy reading cinema music sports travel etc. seeking gay travel buddies.
Shocking! A blog that actually tells you something interesting and useful, what an outrage!
So Im 15, and I'm bi. Havent come out. I have 2 reactions planned :
"Its just a phase, you'll grow out of it"
"Ew get away from me you gay freak" <-- I go to an all girls school.
So on my blog i basically rant about not being able to come out and my dads so homophobic that I half feel even if I did come out he wouldnt believe me. Also I go to an all girls school as mentioned, so there are loads of jokes I have with my m8s, which are physical jumping on each other and stuff. I dont fancy my friends! thats the other thing people seem to think.
: If you are straight you only love your soulmate, if you are gay then you like most people of your own gender and if you are bi then you have a crush on everyone and everything. Its blooming annoying! I love my friends but in a friend way and Im scared that if I came out they would stop the jokes, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Any hints? Either reply here but Im not sure how I'll know if you do, or write on my blog! xxx
Good!
A site where people just want to chat? wonderful!
I'm a man, 40, I came out as bisexual to my friends & girlfriend, earlier this year. It felt good. I'm not 'active'. I hope to be one day, as it's what my feeling want. It has been a long journey to this point. And I'm not going to consider cheating on my girlfriend. No way.
I have had 'intimate' moments with some men in my life, but no actual sex. Mostly because all the ones I picked, I found out, were just pretending to be gay or bi, to get closer to women flatmates! (just my luck!) I have chatted to a few close friends about my feelings, one or two 'girl-friends' are bi too. I have found out through chat, that I am a very feminine man, (or so they describe me).
I am a 52 yr old guy who has had afew bisexual experiences. I love woman but occasionally like to slip between the sheets and be shafted by abnother male. This is especially when my body feels limp and i let him have control over what happens. This makes me feel as if i am experiencing what it may be like to feel what a woman might feel. Occasionally a woman will sense my bisexuality and tease me which is a real turn on. Although Im a bit embarressed at first and cant show it,I fantasize
about it when i get home.I love the fact this blog exists. It mkes me feel im not alone.
I'm a 20-year old bisexual girl and I know exactly what you mean. I was very worried and confused about my sexuality for years. At first I thought I must be a lesbian because I was attracted to girls - but then I was attracted to a couple of boys.
A friend of mine came out as bisexual so I started googling, because that sounded like me - but everything I could find said
bisexuals were in denial of their homosexuality, were sex-crazed or just plain didn't exist.
I haven't come out to anyone because I don't want people to judge me by what they think bisexuality.
sruby@y7mail.com
i am so happy i have found this blog...i am a bisexual 27 yo female...since i have been 12 yo i have been worried and confused, i have never really tried to identify myself until recently. and for the longest time i presumed that i was a lesbian or sexually confused...last month i found out my sister is also a bisexual. it was such a relief to know i wasn't alone. i really want to share with her, but i think i am waiting for when i have my first bisexual experience...if anyone would like to share their experiences or any resources with me, i would love to hear from you. solana627@gmail.com
I just found out that I was bisexual recently and know I don't know how to identify myself could someone give me some advice.
It seems to me even in 2010 that to many boys and girls can't separate sex for the fun of having sex from love and marriage.
I'm very content to have sex with cute sexy boys and girls just for the fun fun.
Thai has nothing to do with me being in love with any of these guys or girls.
Although I am married woman with five children I feel incomplete and lonely quite often, especially when my husband is not as affectionate and emotionally supporting as I would like and need. My incompleteness is due to my bisexuality. My loneliness is due to the relationship my husband and I have, which seems more business-like than from one loving partner to the other.
I need so bad to talk and discuss with someone (friend) about my feelings and upside emotions from what they are "supposed" to be for a woman in my life's position, but that person doesn't exist. I am surrounded with people (in the community) who are against a gay lifestyle. They are actually against anything different than your typical white-american household. So, mine would certainly be protested on.
A very interesting discussion. I am a married man in a monogomous relationship. However, I enjoy fantasizing about having sex with a variety of men and women in just about any way possible. I suppose my attitude about what would be gratifying under the right circumstances with the right individuals makes me "bisexual" according to the currently popular terminology. However, I think of it more like being ambi-sexual. As I have not experienced same gender sex other than self gratification I believe that my feelings may be more about the erotic possibilities than relationships... but I can see how the two could be combined if one pursued an openly "bisexual" lifestyle. I also see how this would be prolematic in a committed relationship where the other partner may not have similar feelings or may be reluctant to entertain those feelings especially where there is an expectation of fidelity. I can see how this could create feelings of incompleteness in the partner who is interested in the possibility of sex with both genders. I suppose this is why I continue to entertain this only on a fantasy level. I would also like to share these fantasies with my partner. Sexual experiences with either gender is something I have become more open to and an interest that has grown over time. These feelings have grown even more after discovering that I enjoy anal pleasuring, which intensifies my overall sexual experience. I find both men and women visually attractive and stimulating as I believe most men actually do. Under the right circumstances, I have no doubt that I would really enjoy experiencing in reality the things that I now only imagine.
Hello Everyone,
Given that this post is still receiving comments, 3.5 years after I wrote it, I decided that I'd repost it here: http://suegeorgewrites.blogspot.com/2010/04/ten-reasons-you-need-this-bisexual-blog.html
I'll respond to any further comments there.... All the best to everyone in the meantime. x
Sue
I like others enjoy your blog. I'm 29 and attracted to both sexs but has never really been with a girl. Experimented when I was a kid but do I have to have sexual experiences as an adulted to be consider bi sexual?
http://www.shamika-4-real.blogspot.com
Excellent post. Some great information to be absorbed in this post. Thanks for an insightful post. These tips are really helpful. Again thanks for sharing your knowledge with us. Keep blogging.
As insensitive and maybe offensive as this might sound, I think bisexuals probably have it the easiest to just exist in life/society out among the big 3 recognized sexual orientations(gay,bi and lesbian). How easy it must be to just be able to kinda switch and genuinely be able to be with the "right" sex society wants you to be with, without having to pretend like gay or lesbian people have to by being with women and men respectively.
So glade I found this blog.. needed to know there are more people like me out there...
I've been looking for a Good Bi sexual blog..I want some where to write. Anyone have any good ones? I have a lot of friends who are men/female & bi/gay/asexual, but around family u still keep quiet...if u know what I mean. I want some where to hear others and share with others. I'm proud to be a bisexual woman. I'm not confused, I'm honest with myself. And I want others to feel the same pride.
Bisexuality and Women
I wanted to shortly introduce myself. I am a 24 year old female that enjoys sex with both genders: men and women.
There is not a lot of information on the internet about a woman's sexuality. However it is still an important part of gender identity such as a homosexual life style. It is even thought of as taboo for a person to be involved with both genders. Through experience I do believe that women are inclined to be attracted to both genders at least once. However it doesn’t necessarily mean that every woman will act on her fantasy to be with someone of the same gender, but most women often think about it. In my case this attraction may purely be sexual, as I have never had a steady relationship with a woman myself, but I have had much sexual experience with them. Sometimes it is even infatuation with her form, warmth and passion. The women I have been with (sadly too few ) had a strong sexual drive as well as they kept their focus on their partner unlike many men that concentrate too hard on the sex itself; women feel each other on a deeper level. For these women, as myself, being with a woman is exciting maybe because she may even feel as indulging herself to something rare and unusual, unorthodox that gives her the feeling of freedom and a unique opportunity. Ofcourse like any gay person will tell you, dating and meeting potential partners is not as easy for them as it may be for the people that are straight. The reason is obviously based in numbers; there are much more straight people as it is considered the norm. However, I believe that as our society progresses towards tolerance, more people will feel comfortable in expressing their bisexuality. I urge all women to pamper themselves and spend an evening with a woman that they find attractive and see what happens!
Greek mythology has many gods and goddesses dedicated to human sexuality, passion and love:
• Eros, god of love and sexual passion
• Himeros, god of sexual desire
• Hedylogos, god of sweet talk and flattery
• Hymenaios, god of marriage and marriage feasts
• Pothos, god of sexual longing, yearning and desire
• Peitho, personification of persuasion and seduction
• I would recommend you check out the Wiki page “http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_love_and_lust_deities”
Hi!
I really liked your ideas on this blog and I can relate to many of your thoughts.
Wanna check my blog I just created? You can find it here> http://biworldofdaniel.blogspot.com/ . I would like to hear your opinion about it as I am a huge fan of yours.
I'm a female,16,I'm a bisexual, and it's my first time to have a girlfriend. I know we were happy together yet I have this fear of rejection.I'm feeling so guilty and scared to be discriminated by my family and the people around us,those are homophobes.
I love your blog.
Hope other bi's won't be afraid to express their true feelings.
I wanna have your comment about bisexual world in my country, http://bisexualessais.blogspot.com/
Sue, you said contact you if I blog and am bisexual.
I'm bisexual and I blog at http://JackScottsBisexualBuddies.blogspot.com
Obviously you know more about all this than I do. I'd like to chat with you at length.
I'm male and I'm in the U.S. so not sure you will want to contract me but I hope you will.
Jack Scott
westhoustonguy47@yahoo.com
Hi Jack,
It's not that you are male or in the US, but that this a blog post from 2006 and it's now 2011!!!
Your blog looks very thoughtful btw, and I will send you a mail.
All the best,
Sue
Should I ask my striaght friend to have sex with me if I'm bi-curouis and how do I get him to do it?
hey :D
i'm a portuguese boy with 19 years! and i'm bissexual ( i didnt come out) .. but until the 18 years i spent all my time with girls but then i entered to college :D and i choose to both ! and in here in portugal there's a lot and i mean a lot of boys who are bisexual. and so many times i propose an utopia where ever single human coul like the opposite sex and the same sex,and the pressure and all that shit of complex and opression would be gone. but of course that mostly people choose to be with the opposite gender of course :D so it would be ok, i mean if it wasnt for someone at greek times , bisexualty would be totally normal! :D .. ... sorry for my english --'
Hi! I'm a 14 year old girl and I just recently found out that I'm bi. Some people say "oh it's just a phase, you'll grow out of it" and that's what I thought at first but I've recently acquired an actual girl crush (my gay/straight alliance leader of all people:P) and I'm ver certain that I am, in fact, bisexual. I would like to tell my friends on National Coming Out Day (though only my friends, I don't care if others find out)and I have started hinting at it, I believe one of my friends is getting it. It's nice to know that bisexuality isn't becoming "endangered" haha. I have a blog I just made where I'll be posting a new 3 or 4 part installment about the LGBT community and my views on it. I would love it if you'd visit(: click on my name or go to
I'm Clarice. And today's the day that I'm deciding to tell my parents that I'm bisexual. I'm 16, but I know that what I'm feeling is real. I just wanted to post this to give people the clue that teens do know what we're talking about.
I'm bisexual but I don't feel like telling anyone because I feel it's something totally normal...I mean I don't think I've ever heard one of my friends telling me he is straight...so why my situation has to be different than theirs...you're not born straight or gay...If someone asks me I'll just tell the truth!
Hi Sue,
Your blog has helped me start my own blog about what I go through or notice in my every day life as a bisexual woman. My sister has a minor in human sexuality and I remember her telling me something that really hit home when I was questioning everything. She told me she doesn't believe anyone is 100% straight because she can recognize when another woman is beautiful, just like many other people. My blog is also going to cover other issues, but I am just getting started. Thank you for the inspiration!
Hello,
Recently I have been stressing out with sexuality. I check out women more often than I do men. However, Im dating a guy. Whom I love very deeply. The thing is, is that I love my friend that lives in France. I don't know how to come out to my boyfriend because I do not want this to end my relationship with him. Another big thing is that even though I feel this connection with Margot (girl in france) I have never had a really really intimate relationship with her. Margot and I have talked about our feelings about each other. But she is in france and currently with someone else at the moment... What do I do? Im extremely confused and feel like witholding this information from my boyfriend is lying!!! What do I do if i have feelings for both sexes and want a relationship eventually with another woman but still be with my boyfriend??? HELP!
I loved your article.You are so right about the lack of discussion on bisexuality.We're here in the U.S. and so many of us women consider ourself bisexual,but really never get to live it out as much as we'd like.It's just as difficult of a lifestyle at times.Thanks for helping spread awareness.
Keli
hi im a bisexual guy,
most of my life i've thought that i wasn't bi. but after spending a in scilence i realized that im a bisexual and now my philosophy on life is to each there own, damn me for being a sexist idiot, and thanks to my friends for giving me the strength to come out about this.
i am a 17 year old, bisexual male, my freind doug gave me the strength to come out, but i don't feel safe coming-out to my family, they wouldn't understan me, but is so releaving to know that there are people like me, if you support us join the GSA(gay,straight alliance) my buddy max fetters helped me too, he is a soldier to me and the rest of us in my crew. thanks bisexuality and beyond ;-)
See, I dunno if it's just me but I *don't* feel alone as a bi-girl. One of my (on the way to being) good friends is a bi-guy. I am on good terms with at least 3 bi/bi-curious girls. My ex hung around with almost exclusively bi/gay people. So I know they're out there :P
I do however think that lots of people see teenagers as only coming out for attention, or to seem 'cool' and 'hip' which I hate. It's almost like you have to prove to society that you really are bi. If you're lesbian, you're someone who can't get with a guy so you 'switch'. If you're bi you're an attention seeker.
It sucks.
I am a true bisexual. Great blog!
I am a teenage male, and I accepted that I was bi a long time ago. At first I was weirded out when I found myself looking at guys just as much (and at times more) as I looked at girls. However, I have learned to be proud of how I am. As to coming out... i'll admit i'm a bit cowardly. My community is very accepting of gays, but I've heard horror stories, and I find it so much easier to just pretend to be straight than come out and face stigma from both sides. Still, I am glad to have found a blog where I can see how people like me live and love. This blog rocks!
I too feel invisible...but not to the gay community I have friends that accept me but most of the time I feel so alone. The only person I can confide in is my girlfriend...and yeah I'm a girl. My parents don't accept me for who I am and think its just a phase but I doubt it. My girlfriend accepts me for me and I love her do much. I'm afraid to come out to kids at school because I don't know what will happen.
hello everyone
I'm a 47 y.o. bisexual male that is mostly closeted and feeling isolated and alone even though i know there are others out there.
I'm a young teen, and I recently told my friend that I was bi. I feel like, and I'm not sure if I'm old enough to know, but I feel like being bisexual isn't really how you feel about sex with both genders. I think it's more like you have feelings for both genders, and you love them both equally. Sadly, I found out that the person i liked was straight (they were same gender as me), and now I feel terrible because I know it will never happen. But yeah, I'm glad you made this blog, and hopefully people will make more
Im a 13 years old girl and I think by writing this I jist admitted to myself that I am bi. I dont know if or how im gonna tell my family or friends since they all are a little homophobic and they are probably gonna tell me that its just a phase. Any advice for me?
Without knowing anything more about you, like where in the world you are, it's hard to know what to say for the best but I'm sure some support would be good! http://www.scarleteen.com/ is a good site for teenagers. http://bishuk.com/ is a good UK site, but it is for over-14s only. These sites aren't just for bi people, but for all young people. Your family and friends may well be homophobic but what sometimes works is that you bring up discussions of love in the abstract. You are still young and they may well dismiss your feelings whatever you say, even if you express an interest in a boy. If there are any teachers or youth workers you trust, maybe talking to them would help.
Good luck!
Sue
Hey! Also really glad I found this blog, people are very quick to dismiss bisexuals as "confused" and "just haven't figured it out yet". I have just started a new blog about my experience if anyone is keen to check it out the address is: http://justgettinbi.blogspot.co.uk
Thanks for the option of anonymity. I always thought I was bisexual and have had a relationship with another woman, but when I got married I thought it would hide that part of me. It did for a while until the past year where I've been consumed with the feelings again. Recently I met a woman whom I connected with on such a deep level that I can't stop thinking about her. The next morning I came out to my parents and husband and received a lot of support. Problem is, the feelings are still there and are spilling over into my everyday life. My husband doesn't want me to act on it and I understand. I love him, but feel like two separate halves of a whole. I really do not know what to do.
I think you need to talk this through with someone who isn't directly involved - a friend, or counsellor perhaps. I don't know where in the world you live, so can't advise specifically, but there are online counsellors and real world support groups to help. Google bi support group for instance.
All best wishes to you.
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