tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post5943885723792117012..comments2023-08-20T11:14:57.937+00:00Comments on Bisexuality and beyond: This is not a sex blogSue Georgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04682934707338626061noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-28086074653916241592008-07-18T18:00:00.000+00:002008-07-18T18:00:00.000+00:00Hello!I am contacting you because I am working wit...Hello!<BR/><BR/>I am contacting you because I am working with the authors of a book about blogs, and I'd like to request permission to use the photograph you have posted in this book. Please contact me at matt@wefeelfine.org, and I'd be happy to give you more information about the project. Please paste a link to your blog in the subject field. Your assistance is greatly appreciated.<BR/><BR/>Sincerely,<BR/><BR/>MattMatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14518609139258919834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-30300240457612489852007-09-01T16:03:00.000+00:002007-09-01T16:03:00.000+00:00I know exactly what you mean. I've only recently s...I know exactly what you mean. I've only recently started mine, which again is not 'a sex blog' but is 'about sex' or sexuality at least. It's extremely difficult to keep it truthful and not let it descend into wank material (for want of a better word!). Similarly, like dandelion, I suppose it could be categorised as bisexual, but I wouldn't have necessarily thought of putting it that way. Still, it's so brilliant to see that more wome are at the very least trying to write honestly about their/our sexuality.overpoweredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09955220523453412599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-16695811002643309352007-08-15T00:45:00.000+00:002007-08-15T00:45:00.000+00:00Just to alert you, I've finally posted my first Bi...Just to alert you, I've finally posted my first Bisexual Post. It will probably seem very babyish to you - what I've read on the subject I read so long ago that I've abstracted and assimilated it, but can't actually remember any of it. So poss. a not terribly sophisticated exposition...Monozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-46718980513757928282007-06-07T00:22:00.000+00:002007-06-07T00:22:00.000+00:00I'm writing it now. By the way, have you heard of...I'm writing it now. By the way, have you heard of Tamsin Wilton? She interviewed me for her book. I haven't read it yet, but I keep meaning to see what she made of me in it.Monozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-53619829260689832562007-06-05T17:40:00.000+00:002007-06-05T17:40:00.000+00:00Well, dandelion I did wonder about whether I shoul...Well, dandelion I did wonder about whether I should list your blog under "bisexuals' blogs" given that - at that time anyway - you hadn't mentioned the actual word in your blog.<BR/>Of course, bisexual as a label has had a terrible press and I suppose I want to stand up for bisexuals and bisexuality as a concept for being "good" - positive, taken for granted, honest and open. My being non-anonymous is part of that, because most people who are bisexual - or whether they use another word for it, or don't think about it like that - *aren't* openly bi. The risks for them are too great.<BR/><BR/>Also, you're right: for many people, calling their sexuality "bisexual" is an over-simplification. (I don't think it is for me) Perhaps that's partly why some people (especially Americans, who - gross generalisation alert - think about identity much more than we do in the UK) call themselves things like Bi Femme Top Dyke, which personally I would find over-constricting.<BR/><BR/>As for the post-queer stuff, that's really a long discussion. I see from your blog over the past few days that you're going to write about bisexuality and I'm looking forward to reading it!Sue Georgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682934707338626061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-85773422644879201652007-06-04T15:35:00.000+00:002007-06-04T15:35:00.000+00:00I think there aren't any others because people who...I think there aren't any others because people who really <I>are</I> bisexual might not really <I>be</I> bisexual, if you see what I mean. And I don't think as a label, it's had a very good press.<BR/><BR/>You know like how a lot of women agree with feminist things, but would never call themselves a feminist? I think something like this works with "bisexual", and also I think people who are bisexual are being or doing something much more than what the label allows.<BR/><BR/>I was a bit shocked to see my blog listed here as a bisexual blog - I'd sooner identify as post-queer than bisexual. I think it's very nice though, because it's not like it's untrue or anything, it's just not how I happen to think about things.<BR/><BR/>I think the label implies to some people who are in it, a simplification of something, or a fitting of things into a model of sexuality that they really feel they are beyond.<BR/><BR/>Just my random thoughts, for what they're worthMonozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-74833161661496730522007-05-29T17:57:00.000+00:002007-05-29T17:57:00.000+00:00Dandelion - yes, I know what you mean! A bit like ...Dandelion - yes, I know what you mean! A bit like telling your workmates what you did in bed last night. Perhaps. And, as you say, sex is closely connected to all the other things that are going on in our worlds/lives. It never takes place in the abstract - only fantasy sex does that.<BR/><BR/>Jen - oh go on, you know you want to (on both points). There is another serious bi blog but it's only updated very occasionally - not now since early March. (http://bisexuality.wordpress.com/).<BR/>Why do you think there aren't any others?Sue Georgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682934707338626061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-54629210352486432422007-05-28T20:36:00.000+00:002007-05-28T20:36:00.000+00:00On the other hand, the "not a sex blog" nature of ...On the other hand, the "not a sex blog" nature of it makes it the only blog I've seriously thought about having well-linked from BCN's website.<BR/><BR/>That I can't find a second suitable blog is almost enough to make me start one...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30566857.post-58596745071878819252007-05-27T21:01:00.000+00:002007-05-27T21:01:00.000+00:00Yes, I have the same problem. The writing about s...Yes, I have the same problem. The writing about sex, I mean. People google me for Threesome, but I don't think they get what they hoped for.<BR/><BR/>For me the reason why I don't is partly because the sex isn't the main thing of my blog, or my relationships either. But also because the people who read my blog, I sort of feel I know them now in a non-sexual context, so to suddenly go all "pussy" on them would feel a bit...inappropriate. <BR/><BR/>I do think that sex-blogging is a good way of getting a non-sex message across though. cf Bitchy JMonozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.com